Sometimes we need to get off the subject of weight in order to lose weight. It sounds counterintuitive, but it’s not. I’m wondering if you can relate to this story.
I had a conversation with someone the other day who told me that the lifestyle changes that she had made had not only improved her energy levels but also had significantly improved her sleep. I was so happy for her. She then became tearful saying that she stepped on the scale and the number was the same. This was followed by some pretty serious negative self talk. I had to stop her in her tracks and reframe her experience. I gave her permission to stop weighing herself, stop talking about weight, stop basing her success on a number.
Weight is often the last thing to drop when you are bringing yourself back into hormone balance. Sleep and energy are usually the first things to improve. Healing your gut, restoring your sleep and managing your stress are key players in achieving permanent weight loss.
You may intuitively understand that when you are faced with a health problem that it will take some time and effort to get your health back. However, when it comes to weight loss our minds tell us that weight loss should be easy and it should happen fast. You can blame the weight loss industry for this. This just isn’t true. Your body WANTS to maintain homeostasis. That means it wants to do everything it can to achieve balance. When it comes to hormones this can be tricky. A woman’s body wants to hold on to weight for a number of reasons most linked to our reproductive system (ya I know we aren’t using it anymore why is it causing us grief?) So is weight loss even possible? Yes of course it is but it’s not achievable in the old calories-in-out quick fix way. It takes time, and understanding a different way of eating and planning. It’s definitely doable 🙂 I’ve seen success over and over.
We’ve all been conditioned by the diet industry that touts quick fix weight loss. We’ve been conditioned by a society that focuses on quick fix solutions for everything. If you’ve ever joined a commercial weight loss program you might remember that queasy feeling you got as you stepped on the scale. Maybe you remember being elated with a two pound loss or devastated by the opposite. When it comes to menopausal weight loss you have to ignore the urge to weight yourself everyday or even every week.
Instead, start focusing on one or two actionable goals every week. The number one thing you can do to sabotage your weight loss efforts is weigh yourself every darned day. In fact there are studies that show that the number one thing that thwarts weight loss efforts is having unrealistic expectations. Expecting your hormones to come back into balance after one or two weeks of making changes is totally unrealistic. It takes a broken bone 6 weeks to heal. We don’t take the cast of in one week and say “Hey why aren’t you healed yet…I can’t believe it’s taking you so damn long, I guess I will give up and remove the cast.” It’s the same for your hormone focused weight loss. Stop telling your hormones to hurry up. It’s going to take what it takes. The good news is your body will come back into balance just like a broken bone will heal.
Many of the women in the Body Beautiful program have told their friends and partners that they are attending a nutrition program rather than using the word diet. It can take a while to convince them that they are not on a diet. By the second week our focus is on making changes NOT the number on the scale. I encourage them to weigh themselves ONLY when they’ve gone down a dress size. If you focus your success on these specific goals it’s inevitable that you will lose weight. I recommend this to everyone. Throw out your scale. Focus on your actionable goal successes.
Here are five goals that you can focus on. Choose one or two of these for the next three weeks and let me know how it goes for you.
Make 12 mason jar salads every weekend.
Make 12 egg muffins on the weekend for breakfast.
Make one stir fry with vegetables and protein, place in glass containers or baggies.
Buy a glass water container – use an app like “Water Minder” to help you get 2-3 litres / day
Choose one of three high protein breakfasts each day for a week – cottage cheese and banana, greek yogurt and berries with handful of nuts or even a protein shake.
Go forth and be awesome. These life style goals will take you in the right direction. If you want weekly challenges and a tone of support head on over to my Hormone Hangout Group.